Millennials: We have communication issues
While separated this summer, (I was fulfilling family obligations and planning our long distance wedding) fiancé and I were talking about how much we missed each other emotionally and physically.
It was then we admitted that we were both bored with our current sex life. He didn’t know how to communicate what he wanted in the bedroom. I however, being a creative writer and a bit more daring with my words, jumped into communicating online and via text messages what I liked in bed.
We began to talk about our limits, but again, we have both only ever been with each other, so we don’t know a whole lot about spicing up our sex life. It wasn’t until I was willing to introduce games into our bed that I saw an improvement.
As a millennial, I was on the forefront of instant messaging, text messaging and all other “artificial” means of communication. I am shy and so is my fiancé. The screen and the anonymity of the internet or text messaging allowed us to be more comfortable having awkward conversations, not face to face. By playing a game in the bedroom, we were forced to look at each other and open the lines of communication about what we wanted. What felt good and what didn’t.